#SupportYourFriendsAlways

Hello from your peeved Bunny,

Disclaimer: I am about to call out some people, if you have no guilt then you should not have a problem with this post but if you do have a problem then you are guilty and there is no argument about that. I will be making generalisations of family and friends, of course, there are some family and friends that have been so wonderfully supportive and this post is not about you (but do read it as this would be entertaining for you).

P.s. I am taking off all armour of niceness because I am very unhappy at certain behaviours.

I like to consider myself as a very supportive friend and family member, in whatever little way I can (and sometimes it is quite little), I like to lend a helping hand through giving up my time to help, retweeting where I can, helping with adverts, watching or reading posts, buying merchandise, advertising and being a big fan. Even when I feel a product/service is not up to standard I'd tell you and give solutions rather than complain or blackball you. These are little things I like to do to show my love and to help.

Unfortunately, with certain people, I find that this is not reciprocated. I almost have to beg for support (with strangers I don't mind and it is expected as that is a way of selling my product to them), but with family and friends, I don't think I should have to break my back. My really supportive friends are the ones who ask me when my next post is coming, read it, they share with their other friends and encourage me with both positive and constructive advice. However, some people that I call family don't even read my posts talkless of sharing it (I know this because I check my stats). What pisses me off is that you then expect me to be the first in line to support you. Well NO!

I read an article that says you shouldn't always expect friends to support you but I obviously don't agree. Support is not always positive sometimes it is giving CONSTRUCTIVE criticism if you have a problem with their service or product. If that is not the case then what is your excuse? Obviously, my love will not be conditioned on the fact that you have to support me but obviously, your love for me is not true enough to support or encourage my endeavours. It is such an unfortunate reality that people find it hard to get support from their own home which is why they have to look outside for support. This attitude did not start today it has existed since Biblical times. I don't know if over-familiarity has wired people to not support their own but it is disgusting because when these people make it, you so-called family and friends would be the first to proclaim that you know them.

Well if you don't support my beginnings don't expect to enjoy my winnings.

I think that is enough ranting for today. To my wonderful CONSISTENT supporters, I love you guys so much. As you celebrate me God will always celebrate you and when it is time to gbedu, we will gbedu unto the Lord.

Have a great day everyone. Guilty parties please change your ways.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx.

Big Girl Syndrome

Hello from your Happy (Single) Chubby Bunny,

VALENTINE IS COMING!
WHERE'S YOUR BOYFRIEND?
YOU ARE SITTING ALONE...LONELY!

I am not dissing anyone but if you know the Instagram sensation, Mr Cocoyam then you'd know this song quite intimately.

Valentine is here, 'tis the season of LOVE!!!

And I am here to discuss an issue that I have dealt with and sometimes still dealing with, the Big Girl Syndrome aka BGS. What is BGS you might be asking? Well (and this is a personal definition) it is when you feel like your weight is what is hindering the guys from stepping up to you and when guys do step to you have the automatic response of thinking that he has a fetish.

All my life, I don't think I have been anything but plus-sized, at least for my age. By the time I was 12, I couldn't shop in the children's section anymore and would shop with my mum from the women's section of stores. As a Nigerian, I am not unaccustomed to my people not minding their business, they feel the need to comment on every aspect of your life from your body to fashion, education and so on. I once had a family friend reply to my greeting with a comment about my weight:

Me: Good evening Ma
Them: Ah my dear you have added weight oh you need to stop eating too much

There was no reply to the greeting, no conversation on how I am doing but an immediate assessment of my weight was in order apparently.

There are a lot of insecurities created for both women and men about what their body should look like, the worst part of the situation is that society never makes up its mind about what it wants (not that it matters); but being skinny is not ok and fat is not ok either. I am advocating that if a person is healthy and happy then society should mind its business.

I have digressed a bit. With BGS you get sad that if you don't lose weight then no man is going to approach you and it doesn't help when the unwanted opinion of the world says the same thing. This instils insecurities in people and pushes them to destroy their body in order to conform. My losing weight or wanting to is based on my need to be healthy (and my doctor's advice) and if a guy told me my weight was the reason why he couldn't like me then he better step through the door because I don't need that kind of negativity in my life.

On the other hand, when you are a sufferer of BGS, you constantly suspect guys who step up to you. Some people have big girl fetishes but personally, the idea of being someone's fetish rubs me the wrong way and makes me uncomfortable. I'd rather have a guy like me for me and not based on the sole fact that I am a Big Girl. My weight fluctuates so would your fondness of me fluctuate with the weight?

Anyhoo that is all I have to say about BGS. I have better self-love now and I know that if someone has a problem with my weight then it's their problem. Whether I am a size 6 or 18, I have a lot more to offer beyond my physicality and if you're not willing to get to know those things then you better move out of my life.

I hope you lovely people have a wonderful Valentine, remember there is more to love than sex and you shouldn't limit your expression of love to one day in the year. Make sure those wonderful people in your life know that you love them every day.

My love to you all.

Aunty Bunny xxx.

First Post of 2017!!!

Hello from your very sorry Chubby Bunny,

HAPPY NEW YEAR AND NEW AGE GUYS!!!

I know you have almost given up on me but please forgive me. I got bombarded with school work and my brain has been quite one-tracked with that but I don't stop thinking of you (I hope that counts for something with you guys).

So we all know aside from being a commentator on current events, this blog is a little diary of sorts so let me update you guys.

1. We made it into 2017, all glory to God for keeping us.

2. I am a year plus (just celebrated my birthday) and it is a signifier of new beginings for me in more ways that one.

3. I launched a new platform on instagram @Rocks_of_Jordan please check it out. It is focused on promoting body positivity through God's eyes, allowing us to love ourselves and others beyond physicality. This was the announcement I was talking about from my last post. Place check it out it is a wonderful mandate from God and there are big blessings associated with the platform.

I have been praying to God (like I told you last time) about this blog. I want the things I put on here to be meaningful, helpful and enlightening. I want to remove the superficiality that conventional blogs have. My blog has to show the God/ Christ element shining through my life and posts.

This particular post came to me while I was making indomie 😂 and watching Sleepy Hallow (judge me at your discretion). So anywho, one of the characters was trying to deter someone from loving her, she was doing the conventional thing of pointing all her flaws and shortcomings (like we don't all have ours) and trying to really convince this guy, typical Hollywood (we all know they'll get together eventually)🙄. Now I find it very funny when you're watching the movie and the person is really trying (with so much effort) to convince the other about how unlovable they are. 

Once upon a time that was me. I could probably sit down and tell you how broken I was and how scarred I was too but God said I have loved you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). Even before we loved ourselves he loved us. When we were in the world he still loved us. To say loved means that there is a past element and to also call his love everlating means that it is also a continuous love that will have no end and no condition.

One amazing thing about finding your identity in Christ is that you begin to realise how valued and treasured you are. He found you worthy enough to die for so there is no argument about your worth anymore.  Romans 6:6 "And we know that our old being has been put to death with Christ on his cross, in order that the power of the sinful self might be destroyed, so that we should no longer be the slaves of sin." Because of this love and the sacrifice of Christ, we are really set apart and no longer operating as our old selves for we are made new.  2 Corinthians 5:17 "Anyone who is joined to Christ is a new being; the old is gone, the new has come."

So now when people claim to love me there is a standard tthat has been set oh. And I'm not looking for counterfeit or false love but the kind of love that is informed by Chris's love. 

Please do share and comment guys. This might bless someone out there.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx

Whining!

Hello from your tired Chubby Bunny,

It's currently 12:30 am and I am exhausted, why aren't you asleep you might be asking, well because my tutors didn't get the memo that it's time for holidays. "Have a good holiday!" they said, "It's Christmas time they said" but the workload still has me waking up early and going to bed late like it's term time 🙄.

I'M SO TIRED!!!

If you haven't deduced this already, this is not even a rant it is a whiny blog post.

I've had a funny week, I was in this depressive state that has no beginning, end or reason. My current mood is just to eat and sleep. I don't have the energy or the zeal. This is me being honest and open, and I need help. What do you do to get out of this type of funk? (practical advice please!).

Ok, I'm done and its time to be serious and put together again. I have an announcement to make on the 21st of December and I would appreciate all the prayers and support I can get. Seeing as the devil is trying to deter me with thoughts of doubt and this project is divinely assigned. SO stay tuned and pray for me (tbh I am in need of prayers right now).

Christmas time is here! I hope you're all spending it with loved ones and also spreading love in the little way you can. While we celebrate let's not forget the reason for the season!

Don't judge me for this post, we all deserve a little whining once in a while. As long as we don't let the problem consume us and we seek solutions rather than wallow in self-pity.


MERRY CHRISTMAS IN ADVANCE (just in case I do not update before the day).


Love Aunty Bunny xxx

This is a segment of Benny's Diaries.

End of term Blues.

Hello from your Happy Chubby Bunny,

I pray asking God to motivate my blog posts so I am not writing rubbish and this blog post came to me while I was trying to figure out my Instagram caption😂. I think it's quite necessary for the end of term/ semester season.

When I was doing my A-levels, I used to be so scared of the last week of the Christmas term because that's when the most fights used to break out. I was scared of it because I hate getting into fights especially with friends or people I live with. We had a name for this week (which I don't think I should mention)😂. 

These fights happened because people were mega stressed, they just wanted the term to end and they had no patience for little things they once ignored. So at the slightest provocation fights broke out. My advice to people at this time was/ is "Avoid each other". Instead of using the little free time you had to be social, use it to rest. Explain to your friends that you're tried, take time for yourself to recharge and breathe. 

This is something I have to do every week if I want to keep my sanity as an introvert. One day out of the week I'd hardly come out of my room, most times I'd be doing work but I didn't over exert myself on the social angle. I had time to ask Bunny how she was and prepare myself for the new week ahead (and even when I'm rich and famous by God's grace, I AM NOT compromising that day).

Whether you're introverted or extroverted. I see us all on a spectrum so we all have a little characteristic of the other i.e. no one is perfectly introverted or extroverted, at least not in all situations. Even if you think you are, you still need time to rest. SO in that last week when you've worn yourself thin, it is ok to preclude yourself from being too social.

On a lighter note, I hope we're all ready for a wonderful Christmas. Let's not forget that this is a season of love, in whatever little way you can show love to someone this season. It was the ultimate sacrifice of love that brought about this season through Christ. 

That's it from me. Sorry, it took so long to update but I've been stressed from work and too busy.

Love, Anty Bunny xxx.

This is a segment of Benny's Diaries.