River Boy

River boy. 

I want to dip into you, 

I gravitate to you,

Something pulls me in. 

A little bit of current events,

I’m swayed 

By your waves. 

Moving in my mind, us,

Side to side,

A dance of love,

Swirling, round

Together, synchronised. 

Sometimes it’s like

I’m floating, suspended, 

Caressed 

By the touch of the river. 

I could drown in you,

Easily. 

Be filled up,

Complete drenched. 

Our love would be interesting,

Fluid like the river in you. 

Strong, stable,

Like the mountains I come from. 

River Boy, too bad I don’t swim. 

Being a Single Nigerian Girl...

...In your 20s with a degree. HOW DARE YOU?

Hello, my Bunnies, I’m backkkkkk.

You! Nigerian Girl! Yes you, how can you come back from university without huzzband? Or boyfriend? Or we’re just friends Ma? A fine girl like you with hometraining galor and wife material kilometres long. It’s like you’re not serious, oya come and be collecting unnecessary side comments. 

Society/ Relatives

Please dear parentals, uncles and aunties, huzzband or boyfriend is not inside a shop or growing on a tree. You said we should read our books and focus on our education so why are you disturbing me about boy now?

Furthermore, since my cousin got married (yey!) and I'm the next oldest granddaughter, I’ve noticed that everyone has been looking at me: 'you're next', 'remaining you'. Please move back, a little backer and free me. If he comes, he comes, don’t stress me, please.  

Moreover, will a man give me a one-way ticket to heaven? 

Abeg leave single people alone, singleness is not a disease. Some of you even say 'eyaaa' when your friend tells you they’re single, are you alright? Eya fire. If I start saying 'pele' to you taken people, you’ll start having heartburn. Live your life, I live my life. 

Dating Scene

The dating scene in Nigeria is giving me a headache. Sha this is the only scene I’ve navigated because this is the only time I’m perceptive to the idea of dating. So I’m finally paying attention to the scene. 

First of all, am I the only one who is mega scared of the type of men she attracts. Like I keep thinking, Lord is this the one that my vibes call to because I am praying and casting against it oh. Old men (married) will be stepping to you or members of sufferheard Olympics and gatekeepers of misogyny association or fat fetish people. I don’t appreciate this. 

Then the guys I’m attracted to are so slow or taken. Obviously, when I come across taken men I’m quick to shut down whatever attraction because I’m not here for that ‘fight for your man’ rubbish. I cannot be fighting because of man, God forbid. I am bad-market for side chick movements. 

The slow guys are annoying and the problem is that so far Nigerian guys have a complex with girls who make the first move; ask them out first. Most of them start to think they are one kingpin. Sir, please be humble. Yes, I’m attracted to you and want to know you more but you’re not the only man on earth, drop your shoulders. 

Knowing the issues I have I don’t like to sit and wait for someone who’s attracted to me to come up to me first. Please oh, they scare me. So when I’m attracted to you, I want to tell you, go on a few dates and get to know you before I start investing in you or thinking of an actual relationship. We’re adults, two people of the opposite sex should be able to hang out and get to know each other before/ without labels. I shouldn’t be scared that I would be called desperate around friendship groups. Not everyone wants to husband you and tie you down, sometimes come and pick me, we go galavanting and you drop me off. Plus I like to know who I am pursuing with a more romantic flavour and who I am keeping platonic, I don't like mixing so I'd like to hang out to see where you best fit in. Of course, if I’m initiating contact you reserve the right to decline, I respect your autonomy and choice. But if you’ll be leading me on and giggling with friends behind my back, honey I’m not the problem and you have some serious growing up to do.

Sha please Nigerian men please don’t waste my phone number I beg you in God’s name. Just kuku leave it if it’s for decoration purposes. God bless you as you comply. 

I think that's it from me today.

Lovely people feel free to comment and share. What has being single been like for you?

Love from BANNK xxx.

Update 2

Hello from your Chubby Bunny,

I have not been feeling too well for some time now so it has been hard coming up with something to blog about this week. Seeing as I promised to be consistent I still wanted to put up something for you guys.

Rest. In all that we do let us not forget to take some time to rest. Do that which calms you down and de-stresses you. For a while, I've neglected the things that calm me and give me joy and this is because I have spent time working and worrying.

I forgot that even God himself rested after creating the world, he told us not to worry about things but to pray and cast those worries unto him. So for the longest time, I felt like I was carrying the world on my shoulders. Being in my final year had me thinking about my future and worrying that I was not doing the right things or living in my purpose. I was so focused on the future that I forgot about the 'now', I was not enjoying time with my friends or myself or enjoying the university experience. I started hiding and avoiding things that made me confront the world.

God had been calling out to me, asking that I see that he is with me and that I do not have to go through this year and life by myself but the voice of worry was so loud. My raging thoughts of insecurity and inadequacy were not allowing me to hear God and I couldn't pray. That made me feel so guilty and I found myself in a vicious circle that made me pull away from God even more.

By the grace of God, things are much better now. We had a Spirit-filled session with my youth fellowship and chains were broken. My friend was praying for me and I broke down (BTW I haven't been able to shed a tear for weeks despite feeling so empty and in need of a good cry). I finally let myself be still and let God's voice through and he gave me the assurance that I will be fine. I have felt such great peace since then.

We tell ourselves so often that God loves us and that he has got us but life can latch itself onto our backs and create doubts. One way to get through this is to surround yourself with the things that reaffirm and reassure you of God's love i.e. God's word, positive people, nature etc. I also made an active effort to go out of my house so I was not isolated, the days I just felt like avoiding my responsibilities and people I would ask (what is the blessing that the devil is trying so hard to take away from me?). If are going through something like this, you are not alone and things will get better. Just speak to God and find a confidant who you can talk to.

Anyhoo, I pray you all have a great weekend. I have a birthday to attend this weekend and I hope that comes with lots of bomb pictures.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx.

Signs and wonders

Hello from your tired Bunny,

In writing this blog I had to consult my Bible to ensure that I have my facts right. This topic is so dear to my heart and I know that if I don't get what's on my mind out then it will consume me inside.

When the Bible talks about signs and wonders, it is associated with God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. They are the ones who equip us with the ability to perform signs and wonders for the glorification of God. They are the ones who also perform signs and wonders as an expression of who they are. I hope you guys are still with me and understand the point I am trying to establish.

i.e. SIGNS AND WONDERS ARE FOR GOD TO PERFORM BY HIMSELF OR THROUGH US.


Ok with that being established then, please tell me, children of God, why one uncle out of nowhere will be sending me so-called signs as a way to tell me he likes me😒 🙃.
ARE YOU A BILLBOARD?!?

Why can't you open your mouth and talk? Is so hard to just use words and actually communicate effectively? Really telling me that I should have seen the signs. Then you get angry that I did not see the signs 🙄

See I am not the type of person who easily sees signs and understands then. Furthermore, I hate to assume or infer things on somebody else's behalf. Even when I am working for a group, I won't just assume a random responsibility without express allocation of that job to me. Like Nigerians like to say "I will not carry somebody's headache".

That's how I'll be deceiving myself that a guy likes me and he will ask me if he ever said anything to me and then put my heart inside the dustbin...ermmm it a no from me. If as a guy, you like and you haven't said anything to me then that is a personal problem for you.

If we start out as friends or we know each other, I will not assume anything because you treat me nicer than the others, or you have a pet name for me or that you spend more time with me or talking to me. If you are feeling like you have invested yourself and your time (or even money) that again is your personal problem. You can carry whatever investment and start going home with it. Afterall, if you don't have the boldness to tell me how you feel, then I am not interested and you were obviously ready for the investment to go to waste.

I sat down for some years thinking a friend of mine liked me because he called me baby and seemed to make extra efforts when it came to my matter. Only for me to discover that 'Baby' is a community name 🤣. I crashed back to reality so quickly it was like they poured ice water on me. Beware of the 'Baby', 'Darling', 'Babe' guys and especially the ones that always send this emoji '😍 ' anyhow (these are community properties, it is not for you alone).

The worst one, the thing I absolutely hate is the "I used to like you" or "I used to have a crush on you" guys. Okkkkk has that paid my rent, tuition or given me a first class??? No! Then keep quiet. What do want me to do with the information? Should I beg you to like me again? Should I call my whole village to help me beg for your like/ crush back? Like, I am really not understanding. Or maybe I should weep that I missed out on you? (TBH most times I want to cry tears of joy that I dodged a bullet because if you cannot simply communicate the fact that you like me then there will be no communication in the relationship). Please leave me alone if you want to exhibit this kind of silliness.

Guy and girls, if you like somebody and you are serious, please just tell them.  Stop playing games, human beings are not playstations. God has given us the spirit of boldness and not of fear; use it! Or you'll miss out on amazing people that are supposed to be in your life. This boldness should also exist when you're making friends or creating networks. If you never take the first step then you'd always wonder what could have been and that is the worst feeling ever.

I hope we all had a wonderful weekend. I pray you all have a fulfilled week ahead even you 'signs and wonders' people. Don't forget to subscribe and comment. Do you agree with what I've said? Do you have your own 'sign and wonders' experience? Please share, I am here to listen.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx.

Aunty Bunny Advises: 2

Hello from your Chubby (now going to the gym) Bunny,

So I've been going to the gym for two weeks now and it has been wonderful. Your girl is keeping on top of her health (*clap for me here). The first week was painful but I kept pushing and my body is slowly getting used to doing more activities. If you want to be updated on my gym escapades or my day to day life, again, follow me on Twitter @BKanyip.

Anyhoo, welcome back to the second segment of Aunty Bunny Advises and the question to day is:

'How should I feel about a friend who has chosen a stupid reason to not be friends with me, but you still love them?"

Don't forget you can also drop your questions in the comments or in my Twitter DMs.

Back to the question of the day. How should you feel? Feel however you want. You are allowed to have emotions but do not let them control you. Emotions are such fickle things so you only want to be informed by them. It is ok to be hurt, angry or even offended (I get offended when people use silly reasons, not to friends with me because I am such an amazing friend but I also pity them because they are missing out on my amazingness). But that is their loss. 

I have three doctrines that are the foundation of my friendships:

1. God is the number one foundation of anything I do
2. I choose my friends 
3. I can't force people to be my friends

As I have mentioned in a previous post, some friendships are seasonal and will eventually run their course so when you find them ending, don't force the relationship. If you do then you are mixing up a batch of toxic disaster waiting to explode. It is better to end a relationship amicably than to have a massive fall out that leaves no room for recovery. 

If you are the type that looks for closure, feel free to ask (not confront, do not approach with any hostility) what exactly you did or what was so unforgivable that the person stopped being friends with you. I am not a closure person so I would let the other person do what ever they wanted, after all, they are grown and have the capacity to make their own decisions. If the friendship was meant to be then we will find each other again. That is why I said not to have a fall out because if you are meant to reconnect you wouldn't want any resentment between you guys.

You can still love someone from afar. Even if they are not present you can pray for them and wish them well. Distance means nothing to love. 

As for you, focus on other things in your life. Your work, education, family, other friends etc. The fact that this one friend has made a bad decision of leaving you should not stop you from enjoying the things that are still in your life.

I pray this helps someone out there. I don't want to create discord but tell my truth. Feel free to tell me in the comments what you would do in such a situation.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx.

Aunty Bunny Advises

Hello from your "I've had writer's block for over 3 months" Bunny,

I have written this apology over a dozen times and just left it in my draft. I am so sorry for not updating for so long and I hope you guys have not given up on me.

My friend just sent me a topic to talk about and this opens up my new segment of "Aunty Bunny Advises". This means you can drop questions or topics that you want me to talk about in the comments or in my Twitter DMs (@BKanyip). 

Today's topic is 'How do you maintain a relationship with someone who doesn't like people's opinion?'

If there is a motto that I love to live by, it is to not be concerned by the opinions of man but to focus on the word of God and what makes me happy.

However, no man is an island and if I make a friend, I automatically welcome this person into my life and give them my trust. So I would expect that this friend does not turn a blind eye when I am in the wrong or doing something that would end up being detrimental to me. A characteristic of love is kindness, contrary to popular belief this does not mean niceness or blind adoration. Kindness means having your best interest that I have at heart, whether that means supporting you when you've done something good or correcting you when you've done something wrong.

If you are someone that doesn't like the opinions of others then I have to bluntly tell you not to have friends. Because any friend that cannot tell you the truth or is afraid to do so does not have a true friendship with you. Unfortunately, I have some people in my life that I am unable to correct, talk to or even advice and I know I am not really friends with them even though I might introduce them to a stranger as such. How can I watch you make mistakes or make bad decisions and call you my friend? But some people's attitudes make them so unapproachable. I've had ex-friends who I've advised on certain matters only to see them doing the opposite thing the next day. If I have reached the level of keeping shut when it comes to certain decisions that a friend makes then we are no longer friends, we are acquaintances.

With every rule, there is an exception and even the exception has its own exceptions. If I advise a friend but they make me understand why they will not follow the advice then that is understandable, after all, to take an advice is optional and not mandatory. But most often you find that said friends only come to get your advice so they know your stance on the issue then if it is not in line with theirs then they begin to hide that aspect of their lives away from you.  If you have to hide any aspect of your life from the people that love you then there is something fishy and you know it.

Handling a relationship with someone who doesn't value your opinion is not a headache I can manage. Most of the time, it shows that person doesn't value your input. If it was a guy I was dating that behaved like this then I'd break up with him because this inability to listen to what I want or what I have to say would stay in that relationship unless he changes. He will always undermine me, my input on money, principles, family or anything would just be like talking to a wall because he'd go on to do what he wants anyway. That is a stressful life that I don't want to live. If it were a friend like stated above then that would be the end of the friendship or I'd just be existing around the person and unable to have any deep meaningful interaction with them.

P.S. if a friend or S.O. cannot take my advice then I most likely cannot take theirs. When I am unable to trust your ability to stick to your principles then how can I trust you to help me keep mine? Most advice is based on what someone would do if they found themselves in similar situations and if they do the contrary then you'd have me do the same too.

All in all, I'd say you have the choice on what you want to put out there. If you are unable to take advice then don't ask for it (it a different issue if you want a second opinion but make it clear about what you want to do). If you do have a friend that doesn't take advice, understand that it is their life and they are allowed to live it however they want and irrespective of what I have outlined above, we cannot force people to live how we want them to.

I pray this helps someone out there. I don't want to create discord but tell my truth. Feel free to tell me in the comments what you would do in such a situation.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx.

A Tribute to Kika

Hello, guys, it's Benny,

Happy Easter to you all.

This week I lost a dear friend of mine and I am in so much pain. I can't believe it, I don't want to believe it but I can't run from reality. However, I am comforted by the knowledge that Kika knew God and gave her life to Christ, there is peace knowing that she is with God among the heavenly host singing God's praises.

I always called her Kikamma, no matter how many times she said that wasn't her correct name (mma in Igbo means good and Kika wasn't just good but was so godly as the true woman of God that she was). Two conversations with her standout in my memory now, Kika was so filled with the Holy Spirit and when she spoke of God, you could she the wisdom God had given her, and the genuine love she has for God.

The first conversation was just after we did our farewell video for those graduating in our youth fellowship. We sat in my room with another friend and I remember saying to her "Kika, I have to pick your brain oh. There is gist and it is time to spill. This time next year, by God's grace, me too I want to go for valentine dinner so give us your tips". We went on to talk about how she met her boyfriend, how they both made sure that the relationship was God-centered and Holy Spirit led. She told us how she took everything about the relationship to God first, how they are making sure that there is no temptation and how they are helping each other grow in their love of God. After this conversation, I remember telling some of my other friends how I admire their relationship and how I am proud of their growth together and individually.

The second conversation is the one that comes with a little bit of guilt from my part. This conversation happened after games night in our youth fellowship, when we were walking back home I noticed she seemed uncomfortable. I asked if she was ok, she said she'd been having pain, I asked if she had seen the doctor and taken something, and she said yes. I wished I had inquired further and not let the conversation go because I know the pain of appendicitis and can tell the general symptoms but I know now that God had a plan to call his daughter home so I find my peace there. That day when we spoke, Kika was telling me about discipleship and what it means to be a disciple. She complained to me a little about the stress that comes with being a leader, not just any leader but a leader in God's house and of God's people. Even though she was in pain, she took the time to talk to me outside in the cold and I could just see the joy and passion she had in serving God and it is still inspiring.

I write this in hopes that I immortalise my memories of Kika and tell you all about God's wonderful daughter that I had the honour of meeting, knowing, calling her a friend and a sister. I thank God for her life, the people she touched including myself and I thank God for using her. Kika was one of those people I call God's creatives, she was so talented: Kika was a chef, wrote spoken word, was a daughter, friend, sister and mentor. Kika was also a wonderful hypeman and supporter of others. In each of her callings, she ALWAYS glorified God and you could see that. Kika like us all had dreams to change this world for the better, she was selfless and such a beautiful soul.

Writing this is not easy and mourning her is not something I want to do but I know she is not dead. No, she has been reborn. Seeing as Kika was a poet, this is dedicated to her:

John Donne, Holy Sonnet

Death, be not proud, though some have called thee
Mighty and dreadful, for thou are not so;
For those whom thou think’st thou dost overthrow
Die not, poor Death, nor yet canst thou kill me.
From rest and sleep, which but thy pictures be,
Much pleasure; then from thee much more must flow,
And soonest our best men with thee do go,
Rest of their bones, and soul’s delivery.
Thou’art slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell,
And poppy’or charms can make us sleep as well
And better than thy stroke; why swell’st thou then?
One short sleep past, we wake eternally,
And death shall be no more; Death, thou shalt die.

Right now my love and prayers go out to her family and friends. Matthew 5:4 "Happy are those who mourn; God will comfort them!". I pray for God to be our comfort in this period.

To Kika, you are loved and now you are with the source of love:

Sai wata rana abokina. 

Adieu, Kiks.

Goodnight, till we meet again to part no more Kikamma.

#SupportYourFriendsAlways

Hello from your peeved Bunny,

Disclaimer: I am about to call out some people, if you have no guilt then you should not have a problem with this post but if you do have a problem then you are guilty and there is no argument about that. I will be making generalisations of family and friends, of course, there are some family and friends that have been so wonderfully supportive and this post is not about you (but do read it as this would be entertaining for you).

P.s. I am taking off all armour of niceness because I am very unhappy at certain behaviours.

I like to consider myself as a very supportive friend and family member, in whatever little way I can (and sometimes it is quite little), I like to lend a helping hand through giving up my time to help, retweeting where I can, helping with adverts, watching or reading posts, buying merchandise, advertising and being a big fan. Even when I feel a product/service is not up to standard I'd tell you and give solutions rather than complain or blackball you. These are little things I like to do to show my love and to help.

Unfortunately, with certain people, I find that this is not reciprocated. I almost have to beg for support (with strangers I don't mind and it is expected as that is a way of selling my product to them), but with family and friends, I don't think I should have to break my back. My really supportive friends are the ones who ask me when my next post is coming, read it, they share with their other friends and encourage me with both positive and constructive advice. However, some people that I call family don't even read my posts talkless of sharing it (I know this because I check my stats). What pisses me off is that you then expect me to be the first in line to support you. Well NO!

I read an article that says you shouldn't always expect friends to support you but I obviously don't agree. Support is not always positive sometimes it is giving CONSTRUCTIVE criticism if you have a problem with their service or product. If that is not the case then what is your excuse? Obviously, my love will not be conditioned on the fact that you have to support me but obviously, your love for me is not true enough to support or encourage my endeavours. It is such an unfortunate reality that people find it hard to get support from their own home which is why they have to look outside for support. This attitude did not start today it has existed since Biblical times. I don't know if over-familiarity has wired people to not support their own but it is disgusting because when these people make it, you so-called family and friends would be the first to proclaim that you know them.

Well if you don't support my beginnings don't expect to enjoy my winnings.

I think that is enough ranting for today. To my wonderful CONSISTENT supporters, I love you guys so much. As you celebrate me God will always celebrate you and when it is time to gbedu, we will gbedu unto the Lord.

Have a great day everyone. Guilty parties please change your ways.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx.

Big Girl Syndrome

Hello from your Happy (Single) Chubby Bunny,

VALENTINE IS COMING!
WHERE'S YOUR BOYFRIEND?
YOU ARE SITTING ALONE...LONELY!

I am not dissing anyone but if you know the Instagram sensation, Mr Cocoyam then you'd know this song quite intimately.

Valentine is here, 'tis the season of LOVE!!!

And I am here to discuss an issue that I have dealt with and sometimes still dealing with, the Big Girl Syndrome aka BGS. What is BGS you might be asking? Well (and this is a personal definition) it is when you feel like your weight is what is hindering the guys from stepping up to you and when guys do step to you have the automatic response of thinking that he has a fetish.

All my life, I don't think I have been anything but plus-sized, at least for my age. By the time I was 12, I couldn't shop in the children's section anymore and would shop with my mum from the women's section of stores. As a Nigerian, I am not unaccustomed to my people not minding their business, they feel the need to comment on every aspect of your life from your body to fashion, education and so on. I once had a family friend reply to my greeting with a comment about my weight:

Me: Good evening Ma
Them: Ah my dear you have added weight oh you need to stop eating too much

There was no reply to the greeting, no conversation on how I am doing but an immediate assessment of my weight was in order apparently.

There are a lot of insecurities created for both women and men about what their body should look like, the worst part of the situation is that society never makes up its mind about what it wants (not that it matters); but being skinny is not ok and fat is not ok either. I am advocating that if a person is healthy and happy then society should mind its business.

I have digressed a bit. With BGS you get sad that if you don't lose weight then no man is going to approach you and it doesn't help when the unwanted opinion of the world says the same thing. This instils insecurities in people and pushes them to destroy their body in order to conform. My losing weight or wanting to is based on my need to be healthy (and my doctor's advice) and if a guy told me my weight was the reason why he couldn't like me then he better step through the door because I don't need that kind of negativity in my life.

On the other hand, when you are a sufferer of BGS, you constantly suspect guys who step up to you. Some people have big girl fetishes but personally, the idea of being someone's fetish rubs me the wrong way and makes me uncomfortable. I'd rather have a guy like me for me and not based on the sole fact that I am a Big Girl. My weight fluctuates so would your fondness of me fluctuate with the weight?

Anyhoo that is all I have to say about BGS. I have better self-love now and I know that if someone has a problem with my weight then it's their problem. Whether I am a size 6 or 18, I have a lot more to offer beyond my physicality and if you're not willing to get to know those things then you better move out of my life.

I hope you lovely people have a wonderful Valentine, remember there is more to love than sex and you shouldn't limit your expression of love to one day in the year. Make sure those wonderful people in your life know that you love them every day.

My love to you all.

Aunty Bunny xxx.

First Post of 2017!!!

Hello from your very sorry Chubby Bunny,

HAPPY NEW YEAR AND NEW AGE GUYS!!!

I know you have almost given up on me but please forgive me. I got bombarded with school work and my brain has been quite one-tracked with that but I don't stop thinking of you (I hope that counts for something with you guys).

So we all know aside from being a commentator on current events, this blog is a little diary of sorts so let me update you guys.

1. We made it into 2017, all glory to God for keeping us.

2. I am a year plus (just celebrated my birthday) and it is a signifier of new beginings for me in more ways that one.

3. I launched a new platform on instagram @Rocks_of_Jordan please check it out. It is focused on promoting body positivity through God's eyes, allowing us to love ourselves and others beyond physicality. This was the announcement I was talking about from my last post. Place check it out it is a wonderful mandate from God and there are big blessings associated with the platform.

I have been praying to God (like I told you last time) about this blog. I want the things I put on here to be meaningful, helpful and enlightening. I want to remove the superficiality that conventional blogs have. My blog has to show the God/ Christ element shining through my life and posts.

This particular post came to me while I was making indomie 😂 and watching Sleepy Hallow (judge me at your discretion). So anywho, one of the characters was trying to deter someone from loving her, she was doing the conventional thing of pointing all her flaws and shortcomings (like we don't all have ours) and trying to really convince this guy, typical Hollywood (we all know they'll get together eventually)🙄. Now I find it very funny when you're watching the movie and the person is really trying (with so much effort) to convince the other about how unlovable they are. 

Once upon a time that was me. I could probably sit down and tell you how broken I was and how scarred I was too but God said I have loved you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). Even before we loved ourselves he loved us. When we were in the world he still loved us. To say loved means that there is a past element and to also call his love everlating means that it is also a continuous love that will have no end and no condition.

One amazing thing about finding your identity in Christ is that you begin to realise how valued and treasured you are. He found you worthy enough to die for so there is no argument about your worth anymore.  Romans 6:6 "And we know that our old being has been put to death with Christ on his cross, in order that the power of the sinful self might be destroyed, so that we should no longer be the slaves of sin." Because of this love and the sacrifice of Christ, we are really set apart and no longer operating as our old selves for we are made new.  2 Corinthians 5:17 "Anyone who is joined to Christ is a new being; the old is gone, the new has come."

So now when people claim to love me there is a standard tthat has been set oh. And I'm not looking for counterfeit or false love but the kind of love that is informed by Chris's love. 

Please do share and comment guys. This might bless someone out there.

Love Aunty Bunny xxx

End of term Blues.

Hello from your Happy Chubby Bunny,

I pray asking God to motivate my blog posts so I am not writing rubbish and this blog post came to me while I was trying to figure out my Instagram caption😂. I think it's quite necessary for the end of term/ semester season.

When I was doing my A-levels, I used to be so scared of the last week of the Christmas term because that's when the most fights used to break out. I was scared of it because I hate getting into fights especially with friends or people I live with. We had a name for this week (which I don't think I should mention)😂. 

These fights happened because people were mega stressed, they just wanted the term to end and they had no patience for little things they once ignored. So at the slightest provocation fights broke out. My advice to people at this time was/ is "Avoid each other". Instead of using the little free time you had to be social, use it to rest. Explain to your friends that you're tried, take time for yourself to recharge and breathe. 

This is something I have to do every week if I want to keep my sanity as an introvert. One day out of the week I'd hardly come out of my room, most times I'd be doing work but I didn't over exert myself on the social angle. I had time to ask Bunny how she was and prepare myself for the new week ahead (and even when I'm rich and famous by God's grace, I AM NOT compromising that day).

Whether you're introverted or extroverted. I see us all on a spectrum so we all have a little characteristic of the other i.e. no one is perfectly introverted or extroverted, at least not in all situations. Even if you think you are, you still need time to rest. SO in that last week when you've worn yourself thin, it is ok to preclude yourself from being too social.

On a lighter note, I hope we're all ready for a wonderful Christmas. Let's not forget that this is a season of love, in whatever little way you can show love to someone this season. It was the ultimate sacrifice of love that brought about this season through Christ. 

That's it from me. Sorry, it took so long to update but I've been stressed from work and too busy.

Love, Anty Bunny xxx.

This is a segment of Benny's Diaries.